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Post by Dju on Jul 19, 2011 18:22:27 GMT -5
Sae, this is really sweet but i can't help but be concerned, I'll describe the why by joker's post yesterday: ...and I wonder if the reason has something to do with this: every time you post here, you seem to want affirmations that you are "kind-hearted," "wonderful" and "a great person," which (to your credit, I suppose) you generally get. But when anybody ventures to say something you don't want to hear, it appears to upset you to a disproportionate degree. I can't help suspecting that what you really want out of these boards is exactly that kind of affirmation. Perhaps, if you were less hung up on needing to hear that everybody loves you, you might be less easily ruffled. Don't take it the bad way, it's just that we worry about you... |
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Post by Pacmanite on Jul 19, 2011 20:25:29 GMT -5
Sae, you're taking a very positive step. You seem a lot calmer than before. And I think that you really are listening to what we've been saying about how to respond in a mature way to what is said about you on the internet.
I would disagree when you say everyone here has a character so pure and bright - because "everyone" includes me - and personally I know that I'm not as radiant and perfect and pure as you make it sound. But thank you, anyway, Sae.
Just one more thing before I go: the way I see it, your worth is not linked to your character. Say if you did something wrong, and feel it has ruined your character, you should not be questioning your self worth (you should instead try to find ways of refining your character). Conversely, if you think you're flawless and universally kind and everything you do is right, your worth is still not greater than it ever was. A person's character will continually grow and will never be completely perfect. But a person's worth is inalienable, it's just always there, in every human, despite the flaws. Make sense?
So it's good to see that you are showing confidence in your self-worth. I think what a lot of people are worrying about - what Dju and I are concerned of - is that you might be thinking that your character is, must be, has to be, gotta be, perfect down to the last sparkles. This is concerning because character can fail you. And, arguably, part of life is in the mistakes that you can learn from to help your character grow. But never forget even in your darkest moments - and you will have dark moments, sooner or later in life - that you are still worth fighting for. Even if you have doubts about yourself, you still are worth the growing pains of character building.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2011 22:53:18 GMT -5
Aww, Sae. *hugs* I'm glad you've had an epiphany for the better.  |
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Post by Usikustars on Jul 22, 2011 10:32:25 GMT -5
First of all... *Hugs Sae*
Second of all, I'll have to agree with Pacmanite that everyone here isn't exactly pure. Why, use me as an example. I'm secretly plotting the apocalypse with purple, killer aliens that are the size of Texas.
....I just said that out loud, didn't I?
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...and I wonder if the reason has something to do with this: every time you post here, you seem to want affirmations that you are "kind-hearted," "wonderful" and "a great person," which (to your credit, I suppose) you generally get. But when anybody ventures to say something you don't want to hear, it appears to upset you to a disproportionate degree. I can't help suspecting that what you really want out of these boards is exactly that kind of affirmation. Perhaps, if you were less hung up on needing to hear that everybody loves you, you might be less easily ruffled. 
