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Post by Smiley on Mar 17, 2003 20:28:07 GMT -5
I haven't had anything like this... 'Cept something similar... My friend Ibraham (this was 2 years ago, in 3rd Grade) told me after recess that Kate (my best friend) was actually using me to get good grades... Being young, foolish, and... a bit stupid I shouted at her before we went in, and cried a bit afterwards... The next day, Ibraham said he was joking... T_T I always knew Ibraham was really weird... Yeah, but Kaiti WASN'T joking...I heard it straight from her, and I know when she is being serious. So you were lucky. Was Kate still your best friend?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2003 0:21:58 GMT -5
* You always poke me (what, it's a habit!) * You always cuss, and I am trying to stop! (I don't cuss THAT often) * You always complain (oh, and you never do?) * YOU ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY! (why...?) To be honest with you, those are the stupidest reasons for ending a friendship that I have ever heard. People become friends because they share a special bond regardless of who they are, where they come from, or how they live. If we all decided to give up when one little thing bugged us there wouldn’t be friends in the first place. Sure, people do things that tinkle us off, but that’s a part of who they are. It’s a part of them that makes them a unique individual. It takes time to overcome these petty annoyances, but the end result is a beautiful friendship. If you ask me, it’s worth more then gold. My best friend Amy over works herself so she hasn’t got time to hang out, has the worst taste in men, puts herself down like she has to please the world, and farts whenever I crash at her place (and I’m talking paint pealing farts) even after I beg her to stop. These things peeve me so bad that I want to rip my hair out and she knows it. And yet, we’re still friends because I don’t see the things she does as faults. I love Amy with all my heart and that includes all the things she does. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Maybe now your friend is just having the courage to tell you that things about you make her upset. Try to find out if there is anything more that makes her unhappy and discuss it. And don’t be afraid to tell her the things that she does either. Try and work it our between you and her. Like I said, it takes time, it’s the only way. Time heals all wounds.
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Post by Smiley on Mar 18, 2003 19:22:04 GMT -5
To be honest with you, those are the stupidest reasons for ending a friendship that I have ever heard. People become friends because they share a special bond regardless of who they are, where they come from, or how they live. If we all decided to give up when one little thing bugged us there wouldn’t be friends in the first place. Sure, people do things that tinkle us off, but that’s a part of who they are. It’s a part of them that makes them a unique individual. It takes time to overcome these petty annoyances, but the end result is a beautiful friendship. If you ask me, it’s worth more then gold. My best friend Amy over works herself so she hasn’t got time to hang out, has the worst taste in men, puts herself down like she has to please the world, and farts whenever I crash at her place (and I’m talking paint pealing farts) even after I beg her to stop. These things peeve me so bad that I want to rip my hair out and she knows it. And yet, we’re still friends because I don’t see the things she does as faults. I love Amy with all my heart and that includes all the things she does. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Maybe now your friend is just having the courage to tell you that things about you make her upset. Try to find out if there is anything more that makes her unhappy and discuss it. And don’t be afraid to tell her the things that she does either. Try and work it our between you and her. Like I said, it takes time, it’s the only way. Time heals all wounds. Thanks, you give really good advice! All of my TRUE FRIENDS think that they are really stupid reasons, too. She could have just ASKED me to stop all of those...but no...she's just being a stupid little female dog and she knows it. Anyway, she sent me another e-mail: ___, 3 things to say, #1, if you already know i hate you, than just forget about me, and stay out of my life!!!!! #2 i think having good friends is great, but your NOT a good friend!!!! #3 i already told u y i hate u!!! do i have to repeat o get it through your big fatty skull!!!!!! Later Loser, Kaiti Not a good friend? I have a whole bunch of people just at the tip of my tongue that would disagree with that. Being so P.O.'d, I sent her a reply (I put stars in place of cuss words): Well, you can just go * yourself(oh wait, I forgot...you already do!). I don't really give a * about you, I just wanted to know why you hated me. Those are the dumbest reasons ever, in case you haven't noticed. And if I wasn't a good friend, then why didn't you just tell me in the first place? Makes you look like a * *, the * that you were born to be. Oh, and do us all a little favor...wear a bag over your head tomorrow, okay? This isn't even near how harsh I can really be...I just want to get it through to her that she is a *. God, she just really tinkled me off...
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2003 1:24:45 GMT -5
Well thanks; you’re welcome for the advice. I think that even though I’m only 18 wisdom can be found in all ages. ___, 3 things to say, #1, if you already know i hate you, than just forget about me, and stay out of my life!!!!! #2 i think having good friends is great, but your NOT a good friend!!!! #3 i already told u y i hate u!!! do i have to repeat o get it through your big fatty skull!!!!!! Later Loser, Kaiti There are two things you could do now. In the all mighty words of Sublime (sorry, I was listening to them when I wrote this and felt it should be in here): “You only see what you want to believe When you light up in the back with those tricks up your sleeve. That don't mean I can't hang But the day that I die will be the day That I shut my mouth and put down my guitar.”1.) Get mad.Make Kaiti’s life a living hell! If you share friends get them to be on your side and make them hate her as much as she hates you. Revenge is soooo sweet, but remember… old grudges die hard. “Life is (too short), So love the one you got, Cause you might get run over, Or you might get shot….
It all comes back to you you're bound to get what you deserve. Try and test that, You’re bound to get served….
Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that.”2.) Move on with your life.That girl is a silly fool. I don’t think she knows the hole she’s dug herself into, do you? By ending your friendship on such a harsh note she has made you the better man, better woman in your case. All of your other friends know now what a mindless, blood-sucking, social climber she really is and that has sealed her fate for as long as you go to school together. (Sorry for the bluntness, but what she said made me mad.) So, now what? Simply move on from this horrible adolescent nightmare. You can’t dwindle in the past because it just makes people more irritable. Get together with you other (loyal) friends and do something. Something that you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t because of a certain someone. Something that will make you always remember how great it is to have true friends. Personally, I favor the second one. But hey, it’s all up to you, the balls in your court.
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Post by Smiley on Mar 19, 2003 20:15:10 GMT -5
Well thanks; you’re welcome for the advice. I think that even though I’m only 18 wisdom can be found in all ages. There are two things you could do now. In the all mighty words of Sublime (sorry, I was listening to them when I wrote this and felt it should be in here): “You only see what you want to believe When you light up in the back with those tricks up your sleeve. That don't mean I can't hang But the day that I die will be the day That I shut my mouth and put down my guitar.”1.) Get mad.Make Kaiti’s life a living hell! If you share friends get them to be on your side and make them hate her as much as she hates you. Revenge is soooo sweet, but remember… old grudges die hard. “Life is (too short), So love the one you got, Cause you might get run over, Or you might get shot….
It all comes back to you you're bound to get what you deserve. Try and test that, You’re bound to get served….
Lovin', is what I got, I said remember that.”2.) Move on with your life.That girl is a silly fool. I don’t think she knows the hole she’s dug herself into, do you? By ending your friendship on such a harsh note she has made you the better man, better woman in your case. All of your other friends know now what a mindless, blood-sucking, social climber she really is and that has sealed her fate for as long as you go to school together. (Sorry for the bluntness, but what she said made me mad.) So, now what? Simply move on from this horrible adolescent nightmare. You can’t dwindle in the past because it just makes people more irritable. Get together with you other (loyal) friends and do something. Something that you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t because of a certain someone. Something that will make you always remember how great it is to have true friends. Personally, I favor the second one. But hey, it’s all up to you, the balls in your court. Well, first things first. Her next e-mail said: ___ those are perfectly good reasons for not liking you!!!!!! would you wanna hang out with a loser who complains all the time, anbout anything, any where, about anybody,who curses all the time, and smells like a freakin' elephant!!!! GGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. (not supposed to be funny) So I said: No, they aren't. And you don't smell exactly like a garden yourself. Yes, I would. If we had been friends for five freaking years and I had really grown to know her well, little things like that wouldn't bother me. You are just to shallow to see people's inner beauty. Oh, and you NEVER complain, then? "Oh, my legs are SO soar!" Man, if I had a dime for everytime I heard that one... I felt very good about myself for that. Then I came to the forum and read your post...and it kind of got me thinking...I should just pack up and go. She's in the past now, I have real friends, so I can depend on them. So I wrote her this (wow, no cuss words!): You know what, I'm not gonna even bother sending you any more e-mails or talking to you or anything like that. You told me to leave me alone, that's what I'll do. I'm just gonna move on with my life because you obviously don't want to be friends with me, and definitely don't want to be friends with you. I have friends who can appreciate me for who I am. I can fall back on that. Sorry for cussing at you, you just kind of got me ticked. But that is all behind me. Go ahead, call me a geek for writing this letter...I don't care. But don't even bother responding, because I won't read it. It's done, it's over, now feel free to swim in your life of eternal happiness without me. There, now I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. She's gone. She's out of my mind. And I'm sure she'll be thinking the same thing when she reads it. Thanks for the advice, becuase it was almost like I was thinking "Maybe if I cuss her out enough she'll see things my way and agree!" which just won't be happening. I hope she reaches the same conclusion. ;D
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2003 0:08:56 GMT -5
Tee hee, hee, you give me too much credit. I’m just trying help out a fellow writer.
*Puts hand behind head, beams* Ha, maybe I should start my own advice column ^o^.
I’m glad you’ve decided to end this with a peaceful resolve. It might be in your best interest to stick to your decision of avoiding each other. If you don’t it could lead to conflict and that can’t be good. Wounds on the face are hard to heal and reeeeally hard to look at, so try to stay out of a fight.
I found a few songs by Our Lady of Peace that could be of help, if any. If you don’t know who that band is… well… try downloading a few and listen to the songs. I find listening to music is always a great way to help you collect your thoughts.
Shaking
So you make sea monkeysed this up again, It's time for you to leave, You never had many friends, And you though this was alright, You're rushing to meditate, You should eat but probably wait, You never thought of yourself, Why are you shaking, Why are you right, When I will be the only one who gives, And lets you in tonight, Walk you could never walk away, From this speedfreak collagen, Caffeinated place, You were always reaching in, Looking for somewhere to go, Nobody needs to find out, Nobody needs to know what you know, So you wonder about the past, When you know that it's already been, Nothing seems to last, Can it last will it last...?
Clumsy
Throw away the radio suitcase, That keeps you awake, Hide the telephone in case you wake, Realize that sometimes you're just not okay, You level off but it's not alright now, You need to understand, There's nothing strange about this, You need to know your friends, I'll be waving my hand, watching you drown, Watching you scream, Quiet or loud, Maybe you should sleep, Maybe you just need a friend, As clumsy as you've been, There's no one laughing, You will be safe in here, Throw away this very old shoelace, That tripped you again, Try and shrug it off, It's only skin now, You need to understand, There's nothing fake about this, You need to let me in, I'm watching you...
Please keep me posted on what happens, I’d like to make sure you make it out of this with your head on your shoulders.
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Post by the_darkjedi on Mar 21, 2003 0:29:12 GMT -5
I found a few songs by Our Lady of Peace that could be of help, if any. If you don’t know who that band is… well… try downloading a few and listen to the songs. I find listening to music is always a great way to help you collect your thoughts. I love Our Lady Peace!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2003 1:01:52 GMT -5
You know, I only started to listen to them resently. My friend Amy had to tie me down to the toilet to get me to listen to them. But now that I have I can't stop. I'm going to go out and buy all their CD's and blast my eardrums into oblivion with the sweet sound of that man's voice! *runs into best buy and grabs the clerk by his shirt* Quick where's Our Lady of Peace?! *Clerk points down the isle* *Lets the clerk go and runs down the isle laughing menacingly* OLP you are mine!
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Post by sara on Mar 21, 2003 2:27:24 GMT -5
Hmmm, by ignoring her, I think you're doing the right thing. You still have those classes with her, which will be negative, but the school year in the Nrothern Hemisphere is 3/4 of the way over. Then you've got a nice warm summer to cool down If you end up in different high schools, by the end of your freshman year you'll barely remember she exists. Unless you somehow repair your freindship, which would be a good thing if it happens. I think right now you're on the right track. Stick to it, see what happens, and take it from there. EDIT : Oh yes, the world of cussing. The reason those cuss words are so powerful are that they have sounds with a kick to them, such as words with the "uck" sound in them, or usage of a strong 'b' consonant, among others. I don't say them aloud a lot, though there's a certain half-joke half-cuss which I often mutter under my breath, but I have the bad habit of using volume instead.
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Post by Smiley on Mar 21, 2003 11:06:38 GMT -5
Hmmm, by ignoring her, I think you're doing the right thing. You still have those classes with her, which will be negative, but the school year in the Nrothern Hemisphere is 3/4 of the way over. Then you've got a nice warm summer to cool down If you end up in different high schools, by the end of your freshman year you'll barely remember she exists. Unless you somehow repair your freindship, which would be a good thing if it happens. I think right now you're on the right track. Stick to it, see what happens, and take it from there. EDIT : Oh yes, the world of cussing. The reason those cuss words are so powerful are that they have sounds with a kick to them, such as words with the "uck" sound in them, or usage of a strong 'b' consonant, among others. I don't say them aloud a lot, though there's a certain half-joke half-cuss which I often mutter under my breath, but I have the bad habit of using volume instead. The summer to cool down? LOL...yeah, I need a break though... We will probably end up going to the same high school. There is only one in our town, and the closest ones in other cities are pretty much . But it is a big school and grows every year so I doubt I'll see her much. But I don't think we could ever be friends again. If she ever comes back saying "Oh please, PLEASE be my friend!", whether it's in five weeks or five years, I will refuse. She got me all worked up and then wants to be friends again? I don't think I could do it. If I made it on my own without her for however long I will have to, she can definitely make it without me. Sorry, but it's over for good now. I only cuss when I am really tinkled off. And I don't get easily tinkled off...meaning I don't cuss much. But her vision of life is just so screwed up... *doesn't want to talk about her anymore* But yes, I will keep you guys posted on whatever happens. Thank goodness we have an extra long spring break for me to put all of my thoughts into clear focus. Ah...*sigh* ;D
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2003 2:19:38 GMT -5
“You almost always pick the best times, To drop the worst lines. You almost made me cry again this time. Another false alarm, Red flashing lights. Well this time I’m not going, To watch myself die. I think I made it a game to, Play your game, And let myself cry. I buried myself alive on the inside, So I could shut you out, And let you go away for a long time.
I guess it’s ok I puked the day away, I guess it’s better you trapped, Yourself in your own way. And if you want me back, You’re gonna have to ask, Nicer then that.” ~~ The Used, Buried Myself Alive
Ha, it takes more then a measly summer to get over a lost friendship. For some it takes months, others, years. By the harsh way this ended I can see a rather long healing up ahead.
“From the way that you acted, To the way that I felt it, It wasn’t worth my time. And now it’s sad cause all I missed, Wasn’t that good to begin with. And now I’ve started you begging, Saying things that you don’t mean It isn’t worth my time. A line’s a dime a million times, And I’m about to see all of them.
Goodbye to you, (Goodbye to you) You’re taking up my time.
I’m about to see a million things, I thought I’d never see before and I, I’m about to do all the things I’ve dreamed of And I don’t even miss you at all (make sea monkeys you).” ~~ The Used, Bulimic
The cussing thing, right, to be honest with you, the only places I can think of that have problems with it are places of authority (i.e.: School, police, church.). The way I handle it is to pretend that you’re surrounded by tiny 4 year olds and they all want to hear you tell a story.
I posted these to song quotes to let you know how I felt about this. Don’t be afraid to post what you’re thinking or feeling at the moment, it would be my privilege to help you out in any way I can.
Buuuuuuuuuuddy! ;D
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Post by Smiley on Mar 22, 2003 14:59:11 GMT -5
“You almost always pick the best times, To drop the worst lines. You almost made me cry again this time. Another false alarm, Red flashing lights. Well this time I’m not going, To watch myself die. I think I made it a game to, Play your game, And let myself cry. I buried myself alive on the inside, So I could shut you out, And let you go away for a long time.
I guess it’s ok I puked the day away, I guess it’s better you trapped, Yourself in your own way. And if you want me back, You’re gonna have to ask, Nicer then that.” ~~ The Used, Buried Myself Alive Ha, it takes more then a measly summer to get over a lost friendship. For some it takes months, others, years. By the harsh way this ended I can see a rather long healing up ahead. “From the way that you acted, To the way that I felt it, It wasn’t worth my time. And now it’s sad cause all I missed, Wasn’t that good to begin with. And now I’ve started you begging, Saying things that you don’t mean It isn’t worth my time. A line’s a dime a million times, And I’m about to see all of them.
Goodbye to you, (Goodbye to you) You’re taking up my time.
I’m about to see a million things, I thought I’d never see before and I, I’m about to do all the things I’ve dreamed of And I don’t even miss you at all (make sea monkeys you).” ~~ The Used, Bulimic The cussing thing, right, to be honest with you, the only places I can think of that have problems with it are places of authority (i.e.: School, police, church.). The way I handle it is to pretend that you’re surrounded by tiny 4 year olds and they all want to hear you tell a story. I posted these to song quotes to let you know how I felt about this. Don’t be afraid to post what you’re thinking or feeling at the moment, it would be my privilege to help you out in any way I can. Buuuuuuuuuuddy! ;D Aw, I feel special! ;D But yes, I have been doing some thinking and I do think that it will take longer than a summer. Even if we drop it and never speak of it again (Kaiti and I, that is) we will still be thinking about it. And no matter how much she says that she has moved on, I know that she is still thinking about all the fun we had. How could she forget? She has always said that I am one of her best friends, I mean...we just fit together so well. We just click. Until she said we didn't...okay, whatever... I am a songwriter (and I plan to be when I "grow up", which may take a very, VERY long time). Songwriters need inspiration, whether it be good or bad. Songs, well, good songs at least, come straight from true feelings and experiences. I could write a million pages of songs about how I feel over this. I think I might just do that, since Ashley (one of my TRUE friends) said I should forget about her and do something I like to do to help me forget. So that is what I will do ;D Oh, and right now, I feel relieved that I won't have to see her until next Monday (god bless whoever invented spring break!!!) I'm gonna get by, just do my time Out of step while, they all get in line I'm just a minor threat so pay no mind--Good Charlotte, The Anthem (I THINK that is how it goes...I may have a few wrong words) I don't know if that song has anything to do with anything, but it's a cool song ;D Off to write songs!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2003 3:27:23 GMT -5
It’s great that you have an outlet for your emotions. Writing always helps me, but I haven’t had a chance to write anything because I’m so hung up on this stupid guy.
Today I was suppose to go out with this guy name Roger but he stood me up! This is the second time he’s done this to me and I’ve just about had all I can take. Right now I feel like beating him to a bloody pulp with his own amputated limb, but I’m watching Ed, Edd, n’ Eddy to help me calm down. Even though they’re just cartoons it gives me hope to know that boys are still so very clueless.
On a lighter, more random note, I’ve come up with a script for a comic entitled, “Pounce, Ninja Kougra of Doom”. It’s about a baby kougra who likes to dress up and pretend she’s a ninja, running around causing all kinds of trouble for her friends and family. Right now all I’ve got is the introduction comic and that’s it, but I’m sure if I can find someone who is willing to try his or her hand at drawing, it could be a winner.
You wouldn’t happen to have any ideas would you?
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Post by Smiley on Mar 28, 2003 1:33:14 GMT -5
Okay, so I FINALLY got home and was able to check my e-mail...I deleted hers though (after reading it). Apparently, at her birthday party when I knew only her and one other person and I basically stuck to the back wall, I needed "too much attention". Then she said something that was so illiterate I have no clue what she said. I'll try to retrieve it....
No, can't find it. Shouldn't have deleted it. Anyway, it was about how I am ugly (I think) and that I am stupid (I think) and that I complain about whatever we do (again, it was SO messed up I couldn't read it). But now she is gone. I was thinking about just simply blocking her from sending me e-mails ever again, but that is a cowardly thing to do. Besides, the way she's going she would rather drop dead than talk to me. And I am perfectly fine with that ;D
Well, since we were friends for so long, we had a lot of "shared friends", you know, people who were friends with both of us. Most of them are on my side. She's just got the stupidest reasons for everything and everyone sees right through her.
Hopefully in a week or two, I'll completely forget she exists. But I doubt that will happen...
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