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Post by Smiley on Mar 14, 2003 19:55:08 GMT -5
Sorry, I'm a little bit shaken up right now...my *friend* Kaiti, who was one of my best, just sent me three e-mails that all pretty much said the same thing, except for one had the subject of "hello loser". Hi i hate you, if you wanna know y, reply!!So...I just could NOT believe it. I thought maybe two of her friends (Christine and Brittney, who hate my guts) had gotten on her screen name somehow and sent me that. But I knew it was a long shot. So I called her: Me: Hello... Kaiti: Hi. Me: I got your e-mail... Kaiti: Yeah... Then it was silent for like three minutes. Then I hung up. I tried calling two of my other friends to talk about, but one's not home and the other is busy. So I came to you guys... I think the whole reason why she hates me is because Brittney and Christine hate me. But I mean, sho only met them THIS YEAR and I have known her since SECOND GRADE! That gave her five f***ing years to tell me she hated me. God, am I tinkled off right now!  So on Monday, I need to think of something that will make her really regret it, something embarrassing... |
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Post by sollunaestrella on Mar 14, 2003 20:00:40 GMT -5
I sympathize.  I don't thing revenge is the best thing now, though. Try talking to her--calmly. Well, try that first, anyway. If she doesn't listen, I would eliminate the word "calmly" from that sentence altogether (but that still might not be the best thing to do). Hope everything turns out okay.... |
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Post by Smiley on Mar 14, 2003 20:04:35 GMT -5
Thanks...I really, REALLY need to yell my guts out over this, so pardon me for a second: KAITI I HOPE YOU BURN IN HELL! F*** YOU, F*** YOU!I mean, what a freaking lady dog! She had FIVE YEARS PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Post by sticky on Mar 14, 2003 20:07:13 GMT -5
 I got in a fight with my friend today, and he told me to never call him again. He's been one of my best friends kindergarten and *sigh* I hope it works out for you and me. |
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Post by Smiley on Mar 14, 2003 20:10:59 GMT -5
I got in a fight with my friend today, and he told me to never call him again. He's been one of my best friends kindergarten and *sigh* I hope it works out for you and me. It sucks losing friends...especially ones that you have had for so long. And I still don't know why...probably for some stupid reason...ugh! And I changed my electives around mainly so that I could be with HER, and now I want to switch back... It's almost as though I wasted the last five years if my life...God darn it I HATE HER! |
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Post by Speck on Mar 14, 2003 20:11:47 GMT -5
I bet she was just pressured by her new "friends" to do that... She could've just dealt with them and ignored them if they talked behind your back...but no, she just had to do that...
I hate it when that happens. I'm sorry if I didn't help or anything... I hope you'll eventually get to talk to your other friends about it. That's about all you'll get out of me, now, so....yeah....
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Post by Deleted on Mar 14, 2003 20:20:00 GMT -5
Try calling her again. Ask her why she feels that way and how it made you feel without getting angry or anything. Good luck.
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Post by Smiley on Mar 14, 2003 20:22:53 GMT -5
I bet she was just pressured by her new "friends" to do that... She could've just dealt with them and ignored them if they talked behind your back...but no, she just had to do that... You're probably right, but she likes them too much now. At least I still have Sasha, Ashley, Jennifer, and Megan to fall back on...they are the most honest people you will ever come across, and they really like me. I just can't believe that Kaiti would pick them over me, since she said herself only a month ago that I was one of her best friends too! I guess I won't be getting $6 she owes me anytime soon. If she fell over dead, I would be laughing right now. And I am DEAD SERIOUS. *throws a shoe at the wall* Too bad Kaiti wasn't standing right there... Anyway, I have to go to the "Whose Line..." show now, maybe it will cheer me up. Some fresh comedy... |
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Post by Smiley on Mar 14, 2003 20:44:20 GMT -5
All right...'twas cancelled. Now I get to sit in my "Pool of Mixed Feelings" forever and ev...shall be fun, no?  |
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Post by rodawig on Mar 14, 2003 20:52:56 GMT -5
I feel guilty now for having a best friend I hate. She hates me, too, but she can't stand not having at least one friend, so she keeps me anyway.
Money miser that I am, I would force someone to give me the money they owed me. Yeah, give me 6 bucks or I'll sue. I'm bad about money...then I go waste it all on neopet plushies and books.
My first time on Whose line...cancelled. It better be back next week or I really will drag people there.
Wow, I sure didn't help to cheer anyone up there. I'm not to happy right now either... I'll go read Shatterglass some more, I'm actually tired of writing after slaving over a series that went nowhere.
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Post by Smiley on Mar 14, 2003 23:38:35 GMT -5
Thanks for all the advice, guys! I know it will all be okay, eventually, but I tend to jump to the conclusion that an initial reaction will have an ever-lasting effect, which it won't. Will she be my best friend again? No, probably not, but that's her own problem...
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Post by spectrum on Mar 17, 2003 0:14:53 GMT -5
I find that, indeed, laughter is a great medicine. I recommend the insanity board followed by a long reading of the Neopian Times comics.
Then, consider this: If you haven't already, like taipeiss said, ask her why. Then, consider her answer. Think about it. Now, just understand what she's saying. If it doesn't make sense, she obviously either is influenced had a change of heart......AGH! my brain itches. Forget this post exists please! I was babbling. If you follow my advice and try to sue me when it doesn't work, I'll counter sue since I had a disclaimer here.....
I'll leave now....* crawls under bed for remainder of the day*
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2003 0:44:35 GMT -5
I’m sorry you lost your friend, I went though the same thing when I was in school. Luckily for me I had the power to see though the masquerade that most people put on.
I don’t think your friend realizes the pain she just caused you, HATE is such an ugly word. Try giving yourself a few days to cool down. Unless you know how to throw your own weight in a fight, I’d try avoiding her until you feel you are ready to talk.
Seeing how you’ve known her since the second grade you’ll know her routine. Get her alone, without those two twits, and talk to her face to face. Remind her why you two became friends, how you were there for her though thick and thin. Ask her if these two girls are worth losing your friendship.
If she says “yes” then the only thing you can really do is move on. I know it hurts, but your other friends will be there for you. Slowly over time, you’ll see that taking this the calm way will be a life changing experience.
Only true friends show their true colors.
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Post by Smiley on Mar 17, 2003 20:09:54 GMT -5
Well, today she treated me like she normally did...instead of saying she "hated" me, she said she was "tinkled at me". I asked her why, and she wrote a note:
____ (my name, I shall never tell!), I tinkled at you (I nearly laughed out loud when I read it...I think she forgot the 'm) because:
* You always poke me (what, it's a habit!)
* You always cuss, and I am trying to stop! (I don't cuss THAT often)
* You always complain (oh, and you never do?)
* YOU ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY! (why...?)
So then I wrote:
You could have told me to stop poking you, you could have told me to stop cussing, and you could have told me to stop complaining...but you never did.
The she wrote:
Yes, I could have, but I didn't want to be good, best pals anymore...it's getting too stupid. (then she put a little puzzle thing that says "I love a phone I you" when you solve it. Of course, it could mean "I love to call I you" but why is the I there?)
Well, if having friends is stupid, then I want to be the biggest idiot in the world. I would have told her that, but I only thought of it just now...
Anyway, she doesn't seem to hate me that much. But I'll be sure to tell her why we became friends and all of that...because I don't think she gave it a thought.
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Post by LDF on Mar 17, 2003 20:13:24 GMT -5
I haven't had anything like this... 'Cept something similar... My friend Ibraham (this was 2 years ago, in 3rd Grade) told me after recess that Kate (my best friend) was actually using me to get good grades...  Being young, foolish, and... a bit stupid I shouted at her before we went in, and cried a bit afterwards... The next day, Ibraham said he was joking... T_T I always knew Ibraham was really weird... |
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Being young, foolish, and... a bit stupid I shouted at her before we went in, and cried a bit afterwards...