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Post by Kiddo on Dec 9, 2006 23:30:30 GMT -5
My dating problems trump yours Stal. Ohyes they do. I make no claims that they aren't. I simply have a very confusing hormonal girl on my hands. You actually have dated some guy. And were supposed to tell me about that on AIM yesterday...*cough* Yes. Well, I went out on a date. There's... an age difference. And... some friends have told me not to 'settle' cause I'm 'desperate'. Others have told me that there's nothing wrong with an age difference, especially since I already have trouble connecting with people my own age. And my parents have told me I'm mature enough to make my own decisions. *scream of ultimate frustration* |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2006 23:31:40 GMT -5
I HATE THAAAAAAAT.  I wish flirting was like...illeagal. XDDD Psh. You kidding? I enjoy all the flirting I do with her. And it was fun back when it was innocent and there didn't seem to be anything to it. I often told her about how I was going to whisk her away to Vegas, and she was totally waiting for me to do so and stuff. It was all just...fun. Now...? Maybe she's just increased beyond what I'm capable of perceiving as pure innocence whereas it entirely is. Or maybe she's fallen for me. I refuse to believe that last one. No. The world would END. LoL...I enjoy flirting too. But it sure starts to stink when you don't understand the flirting going on. XDDD I hate complicated flirting...it's too much thinking. XD Who knows if she's fallen for you? It'd be awfully hard for you to find out a discreet way...which brings me back to my "stay put" advice. But ah, what do I know, I've flirted with the same guy, liked the same guy, for 2 years, and NOTHING'S HAPPENED but CONFUSEMENT and SADFULNESS. XD So you probably shouldn't listen to me. |
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Post by Crystal on Dec 9, 2006 23:32:45 GMT -5
I make no claims that they aren't. I simply have a very confusing hormonal girl on my hands. You actually have dated some guy. And were supposed to tell me about that on AIM yesterday...*cough* Yes. Well, I went out on a date. There's... an age difference. And... some friends have told me not to 'settle' cause I'm 'desperate'. Others have told me that there's nothing wrong with an age difference, especially since I already have trouble connecting with people my own age. And my parents have told me I'm mature enough to make my own decisions. *scream of ultimate frustration* It is not humanly possible to be this curious. |
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Post by Stal on Dec 9, 2006 23:32:56 GMT -5
I make no claims that they aren't. I simply have a very confusing hormonal girl on my hands. You actually have dated some guy. And were supposed to tell me about that on AIM yesterday...*cough* Yes. Well, I went out on a date. There's... an age difference. And... some friends have told me not to 'settle' cause I'm 'desperate'. Others have told me that there's nothing wrong with an age difference, especially since I already have trouble connecting with people my own age. And my parents have told me I'm mature enough to make my own decisions. *scream of ultimate frustration* How old is he? And at that, how much older? And I say live your own life, Kiddo. You've always done it before. Make your own choices. If you find you like him, even love him, then who are your friends to tell you otherwise? As long as you're sure that you're just not in love with the idea of another guy being interested in you...and I don't take you as that sort. |
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Post by Kiddo on Dec 9, 2006 23:35:02 GMT -5
14 years older. And I want to get to know him better so I'm ignoring the anti-dating friends. I'll decide what to do once I know him better.
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Post by Stal on Dec 9, 2006 23:36:22 GMT -5
14 years older. And I want to get to know him better so I'm ignoring the anti-dating friends. I'll decide what to do once I know him better. Sounds like a good move to me. 14 years may be daunting to some. But I've seen things like this work out. |
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Post by Kiddo on Dec 9, 2006 23:38:21 GMT -5
Yeah, one of my friends within the SCA is engaged to someone 14 years older than her. They're a great couple. I mean, it's really wierd cause the SCA is treating it like nothing wierd, they're all happy about the two of us going out on a date, and then I come back and it's like I'm committing some horrible social sin when among other people my age. why the fail. Just why the fail.
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Post by Crystal on Dec 9, 2006 23:38:57 GMT -5
After Sabs-grilling, I now know his name.
Mwahahahaha.
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Post by Kiddo on Dec 9, 2006 23:40:11 GMT -5
After Sabs-grilling, I now know his name. Mwahahahaha. Whaaaa?! Did I even talk to Sabs about this!? *gets on aim* |
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Post by Stal on Dec 9, 2006 23:40:51 GMT -5
Yeah, one of my friends within the SCA is engaged to someone 14 years older than her. They're a great couple. I mean, it's really wierd cause the SCA is treating it like nothing wierd, they're all happy about the two of us going out on a date, and then I come back and it's like I'm committing some horrible social sin when among other people my age. why the fail. Just why the fail. Because you're supposed to be dating college guys or something like that and not worry about commitment and all those other mature issues? Or maybe they're just worried that this guy is only after you for sex, given his age and the age difference. But you know him better than they do, as do the SCA people...to them...maybe if they knew the guy, it'd be easier on them. |
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Post by Kiddo on Dec 9, 2006 23:42:53 GMT -5
Yeah, one of my friends within the SCA is engaged to someone 14 years older than her. They're a great couple. I mean, it's really wierd cause the SCA is treating it like nothing wierd, they're all happy about the two of us going out on a date, and then I come back and it's like I'm committing some horrible social sin when among other people my age. why the fail. Just why the fail. Because you're supposed to be dating college guys or something like that and not worry about commitment and all those other mature issues? Or maybe they're just worried that this guy is only after you for sex, given his age and the age difference. But you know him better than they do, as do the SCA people...to them...maybe if they knew the guy, it'd be easier on them. I was actually told that I didn't have to worry about the sex issue and that he would respect my decisions by the very Scadians that were offering to create a detail of three men with sticks to drag any date that treated me badly out back for a 'chat.' So yeah, he's interested in me for other reasons then that. |
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Post by Crystal on Dec 9, 2006 23:44:03 GMT -5
Yeah, one of my friends within the SCA is engaged to someone 14 years older than her. They're a great couple. I mean, it's really wierd cause the SCA is treating it like nothing wierd, they're all happy about the two of us going out on a date, and then I come back and it's like I'm committing some horrible social sin when among other people my age. why the fail. Just why the fail. Most people just don't, I guess. An age gap that big is rare, and so people are worried. It happens. |
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Post by story von Bielefelt on Dec 9, 2006 23:45:08 GMT -5
hey ppls its a depressed Storygirl what a shock...o great ppl are talking about dating and stuff here too >< (no offence)
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Post by Stal on Dec 9, 2006 23:47:23 GMT -5
Because you're supposed to be dating college guys or something like that and not worry about commitment and all those other mature issues? Or maybe they're just worried that this guy is only after you for sex, given his age and the age difference. But you know him better than they do, as do the SCA people...to them...maybe if they knew the guy, it'd be easier on them. I was actually told that I didn't have to worry about the sex issue and that he would respect my decisions by the very Scadians that were offering to create a detail of three men with sticks to drag any date that treated me badly out back for a 'chat.' So yeah, he's interested in me for other reasons then that. But do your friends know this? Stereotypically, older guys like younger girls for that reason alone. This may just be an issue of them trying to watch out for you. Or just worried you'll end up in a bad situation. Either way, I say do what you want. While it's not quite 14 years, my parents are 8 years apart. In fact, I know a lot of families that are in the same situation. And one of the other really cute couples I know of? He was like 30, and she was like 18 and they got married (I think she was 19 when they got married, though). Wonderful people. |
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Post by Stal on Dec 9, 2006 23:48:52 GMT -5
hey ppls its a depressed Storygirl what a shock...o great ppl are talking about dating and stuff here too >< (no offence) Ah, but see...we're college students. Romance and dating are (supposedly) very different and more meaningful with our group. That's usually a complete falsehood, but given who's discussing it here, it's actually the truth. |
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I wish flirting was like...illeagal. XDDD 
