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Post by Ginz ❤ on Jan 6, 2019 1:12:07 GMT -5
When one starts therapy, what's the first session like? How do you introduce yourself to the therapist, what do they talk about to start things, how in depth do things go, etc.? Like, is the first session more of a "get to know you thing", or is it more on the end of jumping right into what you're there to talk about? And how is that subject of mental health introduced? Do they just simply ask why you're there, what's been on your mind, etc.? Do you need a specific purpose or subject in mind to talk about, or can you go just to talk? In my experience (which is fairly limited, mind you, but hey), you walk in and they ask your name, and in my case, both my psychiatrist and my psychologist started out asking me about my family. Like, what my parents' names were, and whether I had any siblings, and etc... though I don't know if that's the standard, because my psychologist's specialty is family and relationships, so that might be why, hah. But either way, I found that helped me ease up, because they were questions I could easily answer. And then when they moved on to the part where they asked me "what brings you here/what can I help you with?" it was easier to try to articulate how I was feeling, because the conversation was already going. I hope that makes sense. I was extremely nervous and scared about starting therapy because I didn't know what to expect either, but now I couldn't be more glad that I did. I fumbled over my words and rambled and stuff the first session for sure. I wasn't very eloquent when trying to explain what exactly brought me there, but it didn't matter. And honestly, if you're struggling, the therapist will help you along, maybe ask more specific questions. I think you can just go to talk. I try to be as open and honest with my therapist as I can, because I feel that helps me most, but I guess it goes as deep as you let it. I am happy and open to talking more about my personal experience with therapy, but I would prefer to do it privately. So if you ever have any questions or just want to chat, please feel free to send me a PM or a Discord message! ^^
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Post by Reiqua on Jan 7, 2019 8:16:11 GMT -5
TwillieMuch of my experience aligns with what GLQ and Ginz have already said but I’ll say it from my perspective anyway... I’ve been to see a therapist twice. Once was a one off thing, the other was the start of a series of sessions. Both therapists started pretty early on by asking me how I felt about being there. Pretty much as soon as I had sat down. Since I didn’t have a schema for therapy sessions I was kinda thrown by the question, wondering if that was my cue to start explaining why I was there... it wasn’t though. It was literally just a ‘checking in’ kinda question before we start. Pretty much asking “on a scale of 1-10 how much are you freaking out right now?” Nothing more in depth than that. Like, they hadn’t even done the paperwork part yet. The paperwork part, incidentally, involved me filling out a form with my postal address and next of kin and who to call if the therapist has serious concerns about me etc, and signing to say I’ve read their disclaimer about how everything is confidential unless I say something that they’re legally obligated to tell the police, etc, etc. After paperwork was done the talking started and on both occasions they had a set of questions to ask but I got the impression that if I just started talking and strayed in a certain direction they were happy to roll with that, not needing to keep dragging me back to fit into their nicely pre-planned questions. So from there it was more just a conversation. Led by them, but I’m generally pretty open to just talk so they didn’t have to do a whole lot of question-asking in order to get to know me and where I was coming from. They just asked a sort of steering question from time to time. As you might expect the single session then went on to probe a bit deeper but the one that was the start of a series felt like she just got a bit of an understanding of me and then left it at that. I kinda wondered why I’d paid for it truth be told, given she didn’t really help me unpack or interpret any of it at all, and she sent me away with nothing but a vague “eat healthy, exercise, and just generally look after yourself”. But subsequent sessions did indeed get into the nitty gritty a bit more and I did find it helpful in the end. Echoing the others’ sentiments, I’m very happy to talk more, over Discord or PM, whatever works (:
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Post by Ginz ❤ on Jan 14, 2019 18:19:20 GMT -5
If I connect my computer to my router via ethernet cable, can other devices in the house still connect to the internet through wifi? My internet was acting up, so I thought I'd try that solution, and it worked perfectly, but then my dad came to ask me if the internet was working for me, because it wasn't for him. I don't know if it's just that the wifi signal is currently faulty, or if me using ethernet hogs the internet and doesn't let him connect on his phone? How does this work?
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Post by Celestial on Jan 14, 2019 18:30:18 GMT -5
If I connect my computer to my router via ethernet cable, can other devices in the house still connect to the internet through wifi? My internet was acting up, so I thought I'd try that solution, and it worked perfectly, but then my dad came to ask me if the internet was working for me, because it wasn't for him. I don't know if it's just that the wifi signal is currently faulty, or if me using ethernet hogs the internet and doesn't let him connect on his phone? How does this work? My brother had an ethernet cable connecting his computer to the modem. It never affected us in any way. However, I'd you are connected via ethernet cable, you still get internet even if the WiFi signal goes down. So that might be what happened: the signal was faulty but you did not notice. An ethernet cable shouldn't affect other people's ability to get internet.
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Post by June Scarlet on Feb 28, 2019 19:07:16 GMT -5
So a couple of years ago, I went out to lunch to an Indian Buffet, and I got to try all sorts of Indian food, it was good. Now I'm interested in making some, but I have no idea where to start. I know my local grocery store sells Naan, so there's that at least, but I don't remember the names of the entrees or even what I liked.
So I guess I'm asking for Indian Food 101, and/or easy Indian recipes. Thanks!
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Post by Gelquie on Feb 28, 2019 19:49:01 GMT -5
June Scarlet - I can't claim myself as an expert at it, but I can vouch that they are good! A good way to learn about more of them besides looking them up could be to go to those kind of restaurants again and noting what you like and get (if you have the opportunity), or even finding some ready-made meals of them; they can help inform what goes in them and also gives you a ready name for the sake of recipe searching, or finding similar recipes. While I can't share techniques because I really don't think I have the hang of perfecting the spices and such, and while I don't remember too many types of dishes off the top of my head, there is a recipe I can share! Curries are great and not too difficult if you have the right spice combination. You can make them with all sorts of meat and vegetables. I generally go for chickpea curry recipes; they're pretty safe, but it's up to how much you like chickpeas. Here's a simple recipe I plan to make this weekend when I have the time to put it together: www.aspicyperspective.com/chickpea-curry-in-the-slow-cooker/(Only difference is I just use regular coconut milk. It only affects how thick the final product is. I also just use regular potatoes because I don't like sweet potatoes.)
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Post by June Scarlet on Feb 28, 2019 20:08:32 GMT -5
Gelquie Hm, that looks like a good recipe, I'll have to see if my grocery store has the ingredients needed. And I don't know if Indian food comes in ready to go meals, though I guess I can look around. I'll probably have time to try the recipe during spring break, so I guess I'll do that. Thanks!
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Post by Celestial on Feb 28, 2019 20:13:48 GMT -5
So a couple of years ago, I went out to lunch to an Indian Buffet, and I got to try all sorts of Indian food, it was good. Now I'm interested in making some, but I have no idea where to start. I know my local grocery store sells Naan, so there's that at least, but I don't remember the names of the entrees or even what I liked. So I guess I'm asking for Indian Food 101, and/or easy Indian recipes. Thanks! Disclaimer: I am not Indian. I am as far from Indian as you get it. My only qualification is that I live in the country that used to count India as part of its empire and thus has a lot of Indian expats who have brought their food over with them, which I have tried on occassion and have enjoyed and tried cooking. If an actual Indian person comes along and corrects me, please listen to them. So...there's a lot of various Indian cuisines depending on the region, since India is a big country spanning mountains, plains and coasts. There's even Indian-inspired foods which came to exist in the UK due to the aforementioned "Empire" thing. So there's a whole bunch of foods you can try. I'm not sure if you're vegetarian or have any dietary restrictions but if you look around, there's bound to be something you like. Though if you are veggie, you're best looking in areas with high populations of Jainists (a religion that begun in India where vegetarianism is mandatory) As for what exactly to eat? Two classic Indian dishes which can be made with meat or vegetables are curry and samosas (little pies, basically). Biryani is a dish of rice and things cooked in the rice: the difference between it and curry is that it is cooked in the sauce instead of having sauce poured over it. There are also pakoras (things like chicken, onion, vegetables etc. coated in gram flour and spices and fried). Not quite Indian (by definition of borders: it comes from Punjab, part of India and Pakistan) is tandoori, which is usually a marinated meat baked in a clay oven. Now, clay ovens are hard to acquire but this can also be cooked by grilling. If you don't like naan, there is also chapati, which is a flatbread, and dosa, which are basically pancakes. You also get poppadoms, which are gram flour crisps cooked in dry heat. For sauces, mango chutney, raita and lime pickle are popular. I'm not so familiar with Indian desserts but I do like gulab jamon, which are again punjabi and are dough balls in syrup. There's also peshwari naans, which are stuffed with coconut mixture and topped with coconut. I've not had any good ones outside restaurants though. Generally, Indian dishes are eaten with rice, of which there are many varieties (basmati, jasmine) and can be cooked in spices too (pilau rice is classic). Now, for some recipes from my collection. Feel free to pick and choose depending on dietary requirements: Aloo gobi AKA spiced cauliflowerSamosas. These are vegetarian but here is one with lamb. Tandoori chicken. Veggie pakoraRaita: this is basically a yoghurt and cucumber mix. It's the easiest to make out of the three sauces and good for reducing heat. Biryani recipeButter chicken- this is one of my favourite curries and it's pretty mild too. Chicken korma- Korma is the mildest curry available, made with cream. Rogan josh- a lovely Kashimiri lamb curry. A bit spicier. Dopiaza- great if you like onions. Madras curry- this miiight be a British invention, but if you like spice without a vindaloo (look it up: it will burn you) it's tasty. I'd also recommend poking around some of the sites I've linked and seeing what catches your fancy. This is only scratching the surface and there's a ton of curry varieties. I've never tried making the bread stuff (naan, chapati, poppadoms) since they're difficult. I mostly buy them. But if you feel brave, feel free to Google recipes. I also hope you can find some of the more specialist ingredients used in these recipes, like gram flour.
Good luck and enjoy exploring this wonderful, rich cuisine! \o/
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Post by June Scarlet on Feb 28, 2019 21:27:24 GMT -5
Celestial Thanks! There's a lot of good information in your post. I think curry is what I was remembering most of all from the buffet, I think they had several types. And the naan bread, that stuff was good. No real dietary restrictions for myself, though I prefer not having my food too spicy, though I'm working on increasing my tolerance. So those all look like good recipes for the most part, as spiciness is easy enough to control if you're making it yourself.
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Post by Twillie on Jun 12, 2020 16:11:05 GMT -5
I see this a lot on tumblr especially, but I've never quite understood the logic behind it. When a post talks about a specific group or demographic of people, why do people outside of the demographic ask permission if they can also reblog it? Or, why does the post itself say "[x] people can reblog this"? For example, say it's a post advocating/supporting neurodivergent people, and in the notes there's a bunch of "can neurotypical people also reblog this?"
I guess I don't see the harm or fear in other people sharing it as well, that seems like the point when the original post is showing support for someone?
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Post by Lizica on Jun 13, 2020 0:33:53 GMT -5
I see this a lot on tumblr especially, but I've never quite understood the logic behind it. When a post talks about a specific group or demographic of people, why do people outside of the demographic ask permission if they can also reblog it? Or, why does the post itself say "[x] people can reblog this"? For example, say it's a post advocating/supporting neurodivergent people, and in the notes there's a bunch of "can neurotypical people also reblog this?" I guess I don't see the harm or fear in other people sharing it as well, that seems like the point when the original post is showing support for someone? I'm not the beeeest expert on the matter, but my vague understanding (VERY vague, mind you) is that it might have something to do with the viral nature of social media sites? Like, even an original post with good intentions can sometimes be reblogged by strangers and go viral, sometimes garnering angry comments or anti-whatever discourse. (It can work the inverse, too, though--I've seen hateful original posts that were recirculated with thoughtful comments that debunk the OP and elaborate on the subject.) So if you wrote a post defending a certain group of people, it might be upsetting to see your post being hijacked, recirculated, and added onto by people who are against supporting that group of people. Or alternately, if you wrote a post specifically for a group of people, Tumblr can be pretty public if something goes viral, so if you wanted to try to make sure the post didn't get reblogged by people who don't really get it or might try to speak over you, you could put the little note. (And then occasionally, I sometimes feel like some people who say things like "only X can reblog!!" sometimes just want to keep things in their circle.) So I think when people ask "can X people reblog this?" they're trying to be respectful of the OP and give them some agency in how much they may or may not want their words to go out there into different circles? Correct me if I've got it all wrong, though.
While we're on the subject of Tumblr, though, I have my own question I feel silly asking (that I've been meaning to ask for awhile). XD How the heck does the tagging system work? Namely, for content warnings. To use an innocuous example--if I had a friend who for some reason wanted to block seeing any posts with cats, how should I tag my posts? cat cats tw: cats cw: cats cat mention cats mention Would a conversational tag like "I like extra catsup on my burger" be blocked? There should be a Tumblr 101 or something on the site, but that might be asking too much
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Post by Allison on Jun 13, 2020 14:08:02 GMT -5
I see this a lot on tumblr especially, but I've never quite understood the logic behind it. When a post talks about a specific group or demographic of people, why do people outside of the demographic ask permission if they can also reblog it? Or, why does the post itself say "[x] people can reblog this"? For example, say it's a post advocating/supporting neurodivergent people, and in the notes there's a bunch of "can neurotypical people also reblog this?" I guess I don't see the harm or fear in other people sharing it as well, that seems like the point when the original post is showing support for someone? I'm not the beeeest expert on the matter, but my vague understanding (VERY vague, mind you) is that it might have something to do with the viral nature of social media sites? Like, even an original post with good intentions can sometimes be reblogged by strangers and go viral, sometimes garnering angry comments or anti-whatever discourse. (It can work the inverse, too, though--I've seen hateful original posts that were recirculated with thoughtful comments that debunk the OP and elaborate on the subject.) So if you wrote a post defending a certain group of people, it might be upsetting to see your post being hijacked, recirculated, and added onto by people who are against supporting that group of people. Or alternately, if you wrote a post specifically for a group of people, Tumblr can be pretty public if something goes viral, so if you wanted to try to make sure the post didn't get reblogged by people who don't really get it or might try to speak over you, you could put the little note. (And then occasionally, I sometimes feel like some people who say things like "only X can reblog!!" sometimes just want to keep things in their circle.) So I think when people ask "can X people reblog this?" they're trying to be respectful of the OP and give them some agency in how much they may or may not want their words to go out there into different circles? Correct me if I've got it all wrong, though.
While we're on the subject of Tumblr, though, I have my own question I feel silly asking (that I've been meaning to ask for awhile). XD How the heck does the tagging system work? Namely, for content warnings. To use an innocuous example--if I had a friend who for some reason wanted to block seeing any posts with cats, how should I tag my posts? cat cats tw: cats cw: cats cat mention cats mention Would a conversational tag like "I like extra catsup on my burger" be blocked? There should be a Tumblr 101 or something on the site, but that might be asking too muchI think that's certainly part of it. But I think it's actually more for not wanting to come across as knowing what that group of people go through without being part of that group, and not wanting to come across as being inauthentic. So, for example to use the innocuous example of animals. Let's say I am not a dog owner, but I have a friend who's a huge advocate for getting rid of apartments charging extra for animals. I've never experienced that. So is it really my place to say "Yes! I agree with this!" when I haven't experienced it myself? Does it come across the same from me, someone who could easily afford the extra fee but doesn't have to pay it as it does for someone who struggles to pay that extra fee but loves their dog and can't see living anywhere without it? *Edited to add* And now I realize that the cat example was a totally different topic. But I think (hope?) my dog example still works, so I'll keep it. Ha.
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Post by Ginz ❤ on Jun 13, 2020 14:10:01 GMT -5
Lizica I'm definitely not an expert on this either, but I honestly feel like tagging for content warnings is largely a case-by-case basis. I know tumblr finally has a function to block tags and post content, but I've personally only used the Blacklist xkit extension. For this matter, I'm hoping/assuming they work roughly the same? But like, for content warnings to work, it's a two way street, right? The person who doesn't want to see certain content has to block the tags, and the people posting have to tag their posts. So to ensure they never see a post they don't want to see... either the person blocking the tags has to add as many variations as they can think of, or the person posting/reblogging has to add as many tags as they can think of to their post. Or both, which honestly sounds really inefficient. XD;; So, I think the best way is communicating and agreeing on a tag. Especially if it's a friend of yours, it should be easy to talk about how to tag the posts containing what they don't want to see. I've seen people send asks especially to 'bigger' tumblrs asking them to tag certain things, and I've also I've seen a couple of people who have About pages where they list tags they block, or even say they have a "[Name] don't look" tag. The latter is nice because it's all-encompassing if the person has several things they don't want to see, but it might be too personal and exclude others who might also not want to see that same kind of content, so you might have to supplement for that. Still, two tags is better than 6, right? XD; I'm sure there's common tags for common triggers (for instance, I follow Thomas Sanders and see him tag 'food mention' often) but it's hard to know what they are as a regular tumblr user, so it goes back to communication. Personally, if it's something as innocuous as cats, I'd probably use the most basic tags, like 'cat' and 'cats', but I know that's just an example and it gets more complicated than that. I remember seeing a post going around talking about how the 'epilepsy' tag was full of posts with flashing lights and stuff because people would use it as a warning tag, but that just locked out people with epilepsy from using the tag to connect with others or talk about their experience, because it was actually potentially dangerous for them to look it up... so yeah, it's complicated. I also wish there was a Tumblr 101, but at this point, people use the site in so many different ways, I feel like no set of 'rules' or instructions would be good enough for everyone. XD If only! Sorry for the textwall. I hope it was at least a little helpful! TL;DR: Basically, talk to your friend and agree on a tag so neither of you have to be walking on eggshells all the time. And if you're the one who wants/needs something tagged for you, ask people to do so. Most people will happily comply!
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Post by Lizica on Jun 15, 2020 16:29:23 GMT -5
Belated reply, but I still wanted to thank people. ^^ Oh, that makes a lot of sense, Allison! Thanks for adding that. =D And thanks for such a good and thorough answer to my question, Ginz ❤! ^^ To be honest, I haven't actually had anyone approach me asking me to tag certain things. But for awhile I've avoided posting several things from my drafts folder because I know they have some potentially upsetting imagery, and I wanted to know if there was some way to warn or block it if someone could be negatively affected by it. But thanks to your explanation, I'll just try to be consistent with tagging, and hopefully anyone following would know how to block it, or be comfortable in asking for more specificity. Thanks, Ginz!
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Post by Celestial on Jun 18, 2020 14:40:19 GMT -5
I went to buy a coloured pencil of a particular colour, since I had run out of it. For some reason, the website decided to specify that yes, the pencil is vegan.
I am...very confused? Is this necessary? I am aware that vegan products can extend to non-edible things but can pencils even be non-vegan? I definitely do not want to be a "whY ArE yOu pUttIng VegAN on EveRyThiNg?!?!?" person, but I am legitimately confused if this is necessary or just a default feature of their website they keep on stuff that doesn't even need it?
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